Wednesday, December 5, 2012

It just doesn't matter.

It just doesn't matter.
Not in a negative way.
Not in a callous way.
But in an honest way.
In a "I've got bigger fish to fry" kind of way. 
 
It all started when I picked Wild Man up from school the other morning. As I was walking out the door, the teacher grabbed my hand and said "Nelson is just so caring! When the other kids cry, he always goes over to help them. He brings them water or tries to read them a book. It's very sweet.". 

My first reaction was - My child? My Wild Child that can't be in the same room as his brother without using him as a punching bag? Are you sure you're talking about MY KID?"

But then I smiled.
Caring. Empathetic.
I was so proud of him.

So then I got to thinking about my parenting style.
{if there really is even such a thing?}
I started thinking about WHY I make the daily decisions that I make...
about why I let them eat way too many fruit snacks -
and drink way too many juice boxes. 
I started thinking about why I haven't started potty training my almost 3 year old.  
and why I haven't taught him his alphabet.
I started thinking about why I haven't let my youngest cry it out.
and why I haven't taken his pacifier away.
and the answer is simple ... because those things don't matter.
Because in the grand scheme of life, those things are not important.

What is important?
What does matter?

Love.
Teaching them how to LOVE their Jesus.
and how to love LIKE Jesus.
Teaching them to be grateful.
and thankful.
{for they are so, so blessed!} 
Teaching them to give back.
Teaching them to think of others.
To be respectful.
and Chivalrous.
To open doors.
To say thank you.
To take turns 
 and just be good stewards.
Those are the things that matter.

You see, sometimes, I think we get carried away (myself included!!!) - we're trying so hard to be the perfect "Pinterest" mom. We're so busy trying to potty train them by two, have them reading by 3 and writing cursive at 4, that we forget the big picture.
We forget what is most important. 

We forget our main role as a parent is to LOVE them.
 To love our children like Jesus loves us.
(and by the way, that is really hard to do!!).
Because Jesus loves us unconditionally.
No matter how many times we mess up.
No matter how many times we say or do the wrong thing.
No matter how often we loose our tempers.
(which for me is way too often!!!)

So you see  -- those other things don't matter.  
Not to me. Not really anyways.
It doesn't matter if you cloth diapered or you didn't.
If doesn't matter if you breast fed or bottle fed.
It doesn't matter if your kid is 4 with a pacifier.
(even though your dentist may hate you, *wink*)

We're all just doing our best.
We all just want the best for our kids.
and what's best for my kids may be different than your kids....
but one thing is the same.

Jesus's love for us.
and the way Jesus wants us to love others.
(especially our children)
 
I really need to remember this as the Holiday season {quickly} approaches --
when everything gets crazy busy and my temper tends to get short.
When I have "SO much to do" - none of which is really important!
When I want everything to be perfect, go smoothly and just as I planned.
Those things just don't matter.

My only job right now is to help mold these two precious little hearts I've been given.
Even on the days when they AREN'T so precious!
Especially then.

So how about you?
Do you find yourself struggling with this?
or are you just perfect!? ;) haha.


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2 comments:

  1. This is so so so true. I have a 9 month old and it's so easy to get caught up in doing all of those things that you think you're SUPPOSED to do.. when in the end. It doesn't matter! I've been thinking about this a lot lately and really appreciated this post! Thanks for your honesty. Us mommys have to stick together!

    Cassie

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  2. Love this! Sharing the story with my kids now!

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